Publisher’s note: In part 2, Nicky Bicksler shares her bariatric success story — massive weight loss, plus ending an abusive relationship and emotional eating. Read part 1.
After facing years of abuse for my weight and being in an emotionally and financially abusive marriage, I reached a point in my life where I was severely obese, depressed, and had no goals or motivation. I started to pursue bariatric surgery. And I overcame my emotional eating through regular exercise, which allowed me to deal with my emotions without food.
The most dramatic change in my life came when I decided to leave my abusive husband. It became extremely liberating to not only be working to improve my life, but also not to have another person dragging me down. Bariatric surgery gave me the confidence I needed to make this huge life change, and it led to massive weight loss.
The Turning Point
My massive weight loss started around August 2017. I decided I didn’t want to live this way anymore and started to find resources to help tackle our finances. Yet, for every two steps forward I would take, my then-husband would push me ten steps back. This led to more emotional eating for me, leading me to my max weight of 428.4 pounds. I quickly realized that I can’t change anyone’s behavior but my own, so I switched gears. I decided to then tackle my weight.
Regular Exercise Leads to Massive Weight Loss
I started going through the bariatric surgery process in November of 2017 when I attended my bariatric surgery information session. I left that session that day with a strange new feeling – hope.
One of the first changes I made was adding exercise to my life. I started slow, doing walk-at-home DVD videos three days a week. Eventually, I was exercising for over an hour a day five days a week. This exercise-time became time just for me. Exercise helped me deal with the emotional pain of my past and present by giving me an outlet other than food. In my first four weeks of exercising and eating better, I lost 17 pounds.
The night before my presurgical psychological evaluation, my husband confessed that he was involved in some illegal activity. I stayed up and cried for most of the night after he told me. I somehow managed to make it through my psychological evaluation the next day.
…my husband had taken so much away from me. I refused to let him take bariatric surgery and bettering my life away from me too.
Still, I had a tough decision to make. I could either stay with my husband, who made me extremely unhappy. Or, I could take the scarier route and start building a life without him. I am forever grateful that I was strong enough to kick my husband out of our apartment and started the process of separating our lives.
Conquering My Emotional Eating
I also had a choice to make in regards to bariatric surgery. With three months before my gastric sleeve surgery, I decided that if I let this situation cause me to emotionally eat, that I would postpone surgery until I got my life together. However, I was already down around 30 pounds and my husband had taken so much away from me. I refused to let him take bariatric surgery and bettering my life away from me too.
I did two things regularly to stay on track. The first thing I did was plan my meals for the week. I meal prepped on Sundays to plan for my week. I used guidelines from my nutritionist to determine what I was eating each day. Having a plan for food helped me keep on track to lose weight.
The second thing I did was plan time for exercise. I aimed for exercising three to five days a week, as well as meditate for ten minutes almost every day of the week. The quieting of my brain helped me to process all that I was thinking and steered me away from the foods I can’t have.
My life is completely transformed. I achieved a massive weight loss of 235 pounds. And I am officially divorced from my ex-husband and in a new relationship with a man who treats me far better than I’ve ever been treated. I still exercise and meditate regularly, and plan my meals out for the week.
Once you find your self-worth as I did, you learn to accept nothing less from the people you let into your life.
At 193 pounds, I can ride rollercoasters and other amusement park rides now. Running has become a hobby of mine, and I run 5ks and obstacle races regularly now. I am passionate about helping other women make the permanent lifestyle changes necessary to be successful with bariatric surgery. By providing the same tips and tricks I used in my massive weight loss, I help women through the bariatric surgery process and beyond at my blog, Stop Weighting, Start Doing.
Massive Weight Loss Leads to Self-Worth
My massive weight loss of 235 pounds came directly as a result of my gastric sleeve bariatric surgery and overcoming emotional eating with exercise. I schedule times to be active each week, as well as meditate for 10 minutes most days of the week.
Also, I didn’t let my past circumstances define my life. I overcame those issues and knew that my ex-husband wasn’t allowed to take one more thing away from me.
My life is finally my own. And I am so happy to have made it to the other side. You can do it, too. You are so worth it. Once you find your self-worth as I did, you learn to accept nothing less from the people you let into your life.
You can learn more about Nicky’s inspiring “whole-life” transformation by reading “Meet Nicky Bicksler” on her blog.
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