If you’re like most people, you created a few New Year’s resolutions. And if you’re like most people, despite your good intentions those resolutions have fallen by the wayside. But I’ll bet you aren’t aware that self-talk, your inner dialogue, influences whether or not you achieve your goals. It’s true. Your words have power, even […]
Becoming your own best friend might seem a little bit strange. Why should you work on becoming your own best friend when you have friends, family, maybe even a partner? The truth is many of us dislike, maybe even hate, ourselves because of our morbid obesity. And while the weight loss surgery helps us remove […]
With January well underway, it’s time to take stock of the goals you’re going to work on throughout the year. While focusing on your career prospects or attracting romance into your life are great ideas, one of the most important things you can do is to set a goal that looks at living a happier […]
Loving yourself is not about vanity, it’s about knowing your worth and loving yourself for who you are. The fact is that it’s too easy to dislike yourself, rather than loving yourself. However, if you are going to lead a meaningful and contented life then you need to be happy. And to be happy, you […]
Making the right changes for our lives is crucial so that we are truly happy and in good health. Thinking about and acting on what we can do to enhance our lives and improve out well-being is vital, because life is short and we only get one shot at it. So we need to do […]
If you’ve dropped your excess weight and gotten healthy but find you still don’t have the best self-image, then there is a reasonable chance that you need to learn to love yourself. Of course, that isn’t always easy if you make lots of mistakes during your life. It’s challenging to love yourself when you do […]
Kelley Gunter author of You Have Such a Pretty Face, had the BPD/DS duodenal switch surgery in 2002 and subsequently dropped 243 pounds from her pre-surgery weight of 391 pounds. Kelley later had plastic surgery after massive weight loss to remove the excess skin and fat that remained. And her transformation was stunning. One could […]
We suffer from an unfortunate misconception. We tend to think of self love and vanity as the same thing. They are, in reality, very different. Where vanity is blindness to one’s own faults and an overestimation of what we bring to the world, self love means recognizing the worst in ourselves and committing to be […]
There is mind and there is matter. If you wish to move the matter, you’ll need to tune up your mind. In this case the matter is that inner tube just above your waist. And if you wish to move it, you’ll need to get your thinking straight. Our human nature is prone to negative self-talk, […]
Perfection is not achievable or even desirable, and that is OK. In fact, as humans, we are all a work-in-progress and will remain so for the entirety of our lives. We learn. We grow. And we are able to make significant changes — one of which may be to lose weight and improve our health. And no matter […]
Weight loss success begins with believing. If you have a self-defeating attitude, reframing your thoughts might be the injection you need to turn things around. If you are stuck in the frustration of try, fail, and repeat, a reality check is probably overdue. Chances are good that you are as capable as most other people. […]
The benefits of weight loss are well-documented. People enjoy better health, self-esteem rises, and a new lifestyle begins. The satisfaction can be enormous, but there are some who struggle with the adjustment. They are strangers to themselves and not at all the “me” they once knew. The triumph of self-improvement turns into identity crisis and […]
Yoga Practicing: Ways to Get Inspiration and Reach Self-Realization There are few things that are more attractive than someone who is filled with self-love, confidence, and a wonderful sense of adventure, humor, and ease. All these things come from living a life that we enjoy, one that lets us be the best version of ourselves. […]
Self-Perception and Obesity Obesity is both an emotional and physical condition. It promotes apprehension and personal doubt that can spark self-analysis about weight gain and how it came to be. Obese people can also be hyper-critical about who they are and pass judgments that violate their own best interest. Emotions often overrule rationale and shred […]
November is traditionally a time to give deeper consideration for all that which we have to be thankful. And I am thankful for massive weight loss because it has given me back my health and my life. Before my gastric bypass in 2003, I had cycled through obesity, anorexia, binge eating disorder, bulimia, and finally morbid obesity. […]
Dating after Weight Loss is Part 2 of Jen’s story. Read Part 1. Jen began Dating after Weight Loss Surgery Jen and John met through an online dating site. They were married on October 17, 2015. My Bariatric Life: What were some of your concerns about attention from men and dating? Jen: My #1 concern was […]
Thoughts on self #forgiveness:
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I feel the bad things we do, or have done, or the bad decisions we have taken, could not have been done differently by the person we were. Nobody takes a bad decision knowing the consequences will be very hard to live with. We do what we do mostly in self-defense and based on our own self-image. A thief is really saying to himself 'I steal because I am a thief'. An abuser is saying to himself 'I abuse because I am an abuser'. People with self-respect and self-love could not imagine stealing or abusing. It would be unimaginable to them. When we don't love ourselves, if we think of ourselves as a thief or an abuser, that is exactly how we will behave. Sadly, that cycle always starts when people are treated badly, or are shown a bad example, when they are very young. Through guilt we force ourselves to live and relive our past. Our past remains our present, and becomes our future. Self forgiveness is the only way of renewing our hearts and minds, giving us the self-respect that makes the idea of behaving badly unimaginable to us. And self- forgiveness is something that only we can give to ourselves. But once we have, we can respect and love the people around us, because our self-image of who we are, is changed. Once we respect ourselves, we are naturally respectful to the people around us. So the more we forgive ourselves, the better we become as people. How simple is that :-) So do something wonderful today and every day. Forgive yourself and become the wonderful person you are, that is, when you and only you realize it.
